Thursday, September 11, 2014

Baby 4 is keeping me on my toes!

Well, it’s been one heck of a past 48 hours, and I think I just experienced my first false labor ordeal.

In my past 3 labors, I felt pretty confident and sure of myself.  Sure I had lots of Braxton hicks, and the odd question of, “could I be in labor” a few times the week before each child arrived, but nothing where I went into the hospital or called for back- up, or packed a hospital bag unnecessarily.  In fact, they were all pretty normal early labors, “ text book” I’d say.   My contractions would start as mild and gradual, and then become closer and more intense, and then they’d hit the point I just knew that I’d need to head into the hospital.  I’ve told friends expecting their first child, “Oh- you’ll just KNOW!”

Well, on Tuesday I didn’t feel the greatest.  A bit under the weather and tired.  By supper I was having cramps and contractions fairly close together, and I thought,” THIS IS IT!”  They felt like real contractions with back pain and cramping and close and consistent.    But, then they’d slow a bit, then pick up again.  I knew that the inconsistency of them probably meant it wasn’t the real deal, but it sure felt REAL!  I was exhausted by ten pm with the uncertainty and strain, and noticed they were slowing down a good amount when laying down, so I just decided to try and fall asleep and see what the night and early morning might bring.

I slept great until 5 am, then woke up just wide awake with more dull pain and cramps and feeling VERY off and awful.  However, I didn’t have any contractions.  So, after considering everything decided to take on the daycare kids, send Dave to work, and see what the day would bring.  By 8 AM, I regretted my decision, as I was having contractions 2-3 minutes apart, long and painful.  I put all the kids in front of the TV, and moaned away trying to time them and decide my plan of action.  After about 30 minutes of this,   I decided to call the hospital and see what they thought I should do.

After talking to a nurse on the phone, she advised I come into the hospital to be assessed.  She said not to rush, but to get child care arranged and leave within an hourish. SO, I called Dave home from school.   He got home in  10 minutes flat, and pumped out some lesson plans for his supply while I called parents to pick up kids, and arranged childcare for my own, and  finished up packing my bag.   This with many pauses on the staircase or floor to breathe through a contraction, etc.   By the time everything was lined up a bit over an hour later, my contractions were spacing out to about 5 minutes apart and were less intense.  We headed into the hospital, and got checked into an assessment room pretty quickly. 

Sure enough, the monitors registered contractions 5 minutes apart, but they got less and less intense over the 2 hours I was there.   I expressed my pure uncertainty as to whether this was true or false labor to the nurses.  I would swear I was in labor one minute because of the pain and intensity, and then have nothing for a while.  I have never been early, and that was also a big question mark.   I had a great seasoned nurse, who assured me that 4th babies were always “tricky” in their timing and very rarely seemed to follow textbook patterns.  It was both reassuring and scary to hear.  Finally, they checked my dilation, and although a few cms (which is normal for somebody who has had a few kids) they thought I was a bit too high and hard, and that my cervix was not currently, “laboring.”  They sent me home and said to relax, have a bath, go for a stroll.  Perhaps it would pass, or progress.

Oh man! I felt so devastated.  It was so much stress and work making all those plans to get the kids and Dave’s classes covered,  and then to be sent home!  I felt bad for all the people who just reorganized their life for me.   I cried on and off the whole van ride home, all the while experiencing random painful contractions here and there, and still feeling like I was in labor!    I arrived home to confused kids, and some friends who were hanging out with them.  They offered to stay the night and next day or 2 in the event I was just in super early labor, and also just to ease my load and help out.  The workload of my life feels a bit unmanageable at this point, and the stress of wondering if I was in labor, made me readily accept.  

After a relaxing afternoon rest and bath,  I got up and had a cup of tea, and by 4pm, was certain I was in labor.  I was having contractions 2-3 minutes apart that I had to breathe and sway through, and bolt to the bathroom for, thinking the pressure might bust my water!  This went on for a little over an hour, and I was feeling so thankful the kids were in good hands, and that Dave was available.....and then it just STOPPED!  Totally stopped.  For an hour. Nothing!  I had a few more hours of milder ones 5-10 minutes apart, but by 9 felt totally exhausted from the day, and went to bed to see if I could sleep.   

It was the strangest sleep last night!  I slept hard and well, except for every hour or 2, I would have the most intense contraction from nowhere.  It wake me up out of the blue and would make me JUMP out of bed, and lean forward and grasp onto the corners of the bed and holding in my breathing and moaning as best I could from the snoring Dave.  They would last a minute, and then I’d just get my feet under me and brace myself for another one....and there would be NOTHING!  Not even a Braxton hick! 

So, this morning the same pattern has followed.   I woke up feeling heavy and having some back pain and dull sort of aches.  But all that has happened is every few hours out of nowhere a contraction hits like a log, and then nothing follows.  I did meals and homeschooling  with the kids today, and the lovely Sarah Guindon has been hanging out with them otherwise.  I had a great afternoon nap, and since then haven’t had BOO!  Nilch.  Nada! Zero. 



So, I feel entirely confused and somewhat frustrated, and I think it may have been a false alarm?  Or, maybe I am going to have a very long drawn out early labor for a few days?  I am VERY thankful to have Sarah staying with us until tomorrow, and so my mind is much more at ease currently as I write this. 

Although, I must say I feel terrified my body just did a lot of prep- work for the real deal, and when labor does come, it will be fast and furious, but I won’t believe it’s real, and then I’ll have a baby in the van!   I’m feeling uncertain if I should be in “labor go” mode....or just forget about the past 48 hours, and pretend nothing will happen until my due date!  I have friends all signed up for different shifts the 2 weeks surrounding my actual due date who are able to come quickly to relieve me....but should I try and put plans in place in the meantime?  Oh, I just don’t know.  Taking it one day at a time is hard.

Taking things one day at a time is hard when you are super pregnant.  Really hard.  Trying to keep my chin up.   Thanks for reading, and weigh in on your guess for my due date on my facebook page.  Date and Time!  That will be fun to see.  I’m out!


So, that is where I am at! 

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